Are You Lying To Yourself?

Get rid of the scarf.

My closet is a never ending disaster I am always trying to maintain. I was sorting thru scarves I wear and scarves I don’t.

Keep, gone, gone, keep, this one has been around so long I gotta keep it, gone, gone, gone, keep.

Wait. What?

Why am I keeping the one I know I won’t wear anymore, just because I have had it forever?!

Lightbulb.

How many times do we do that with our lives?

We think "This anxiety has been around so long I gotta keep it. It’s part of who I am at this point."

or "I wouldn’t know who I was if I wasn’t battling depression or broke or miserable or searching for a new job or trying to find a major change of some sort to hopefully make me happy." "I don't remember how it feels to not have this anger and hate in my heart."

The list goes on and on ...This is me, sad, miserable, me.

News flash to us all..... Keeping a negative characteristic in our lives for memories sake continues to make our future look like our past...does anyone really want that??

I mean seriously I will NEVER wear that scarf again- I don't want to bring that back either! So why am I hanging on to some of these other things just because I'm used to it and think this is how it will always be.

Believing lies about ourselves just because we have always believed them does not make them true.

One lie I told myself and struggled with was a warped definition of what makes a person strong vs what makes them weak.

You might think “I have to stay strong for my family - meaning I don’t feel the pain. I don’t cry. I don’t admit that this is heavy and this is hard and I am tired, because I am strong.”

Yeah,